I know their hearts were in the right place but that got me nowhere in high school and college. The moment I started leading and flirting with women I liked, all my problems disappeared. And wait some more. It probably helped that I was raised by my mom and 3 sisters. Regardless, the guys who can playfully reassure her through those moments, make her laugh, and continue leading without shame build more attraction. They all told me to not hit on girls like every other creep.
You never had any sexy banter or intimate discussion to get her thinking about sex.
If a guy has massive amounts of PASSIVE attractiveness like physical looks, wealth, power, or social status — that can showcase those desireable qualities in itself. Always playing it safe is a great way to make women feel comfortable around you. I hear this quite often and nothing to feel bad about. You have to want to tap into the strongest, most confident version of YOU. Once you feel a connection, you have to lead with your interest.